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BDSM isn't only about pain and power: what is sensory play?

Imagine your eyes are closed and a touch comes from an unexpected place at an unexpected moment. For some people, playing with attention — through textures, sounds, warmth, or anticipation, for example — makes sensations more noticeable. Sometimes it is not the intensity of a stimulus but the surprise: a light touch can feel different when you cannot see or predict it. Others may not be interested at all; sensory play is not a required part of BDSM.


A review of BDSM research covers a wide range of practices, but most studies are descriptive and tell us little about the mechanisms behind specific forms of play. So we cannot conclude that sensory stimulation is beneficial for everyone or that an interest in it says something definite about someone's personality. It is one way of exploring sensation, if it suits the people involved.

If you want to try it, discuss in advance which touches and objects are okay, how to signal “stop,” and how to check in with each other. Consent applies to specific actions and can be withdrawn at any time. Afterwards, you can calmly talk about what felt good and what you might change. Both people should feel free to change their minds.

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