In our first ten days, that has already appeared in almost every subject we have explored.
Desire does not always have to come before arousal. Partners do not have to want sex equally often. Losing some of the novelty in a long-term relationship is not the same as losing love. An interest in BDSM, by itself, does not tell us that someone is psychologically unhealthy. Sexual compatibility is more complicated than simply having matching preferences. And a person can be genuinely aroused while being so preoccupied with their body that they almost stop experiencing their own sensations.
We have also discussed things that are especially easy to turn into moral judgments. Attraction to someone else is not the same as deciding to cheat. A fantasy is not the same as an intention to act on it. And an unusual desire does not automatically tell us whether that desire is a problem.
Even something that appears as physiological as orgasm turned out to be closely connected to context, sexual scripts and whose pleasure receives attention in the first place.
That will probably remain one of the central principles of TRUE NATURE.
We are not here to argue that “absolutely everything is normal.” And we are not here to replace an old list of sexual rules with a new one.
We will look at the research, separate fantasy from behavior, unusualness from harm, and correlation from causation — and keep asking: what do we actually know about human sexuality, and what have we simply treated as obvious truth for too long?
In September, we will go deeper. And this time, you will help choose some of the directions.