“How do I look right now?”
“My stomach probably looks terrible from this angle.”
“The light is too bright.”
“What does my face look like?”
“Am I moving in a sexy enough way?”
Instead of experiencing what is happening from inside your body, you begin watching yourself almost as though you were an outside observer.
Sexology uses the term spectatoring for this kind of experience.
It creates a strange paradox: we can become so focused on looking sexual that we stop fully experiencing the sex itself.
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